‘You’re not coming to my wedding’: Sisterly Dispute Erupts After Older Sister Gets Engaged, Younger Sister Tries to Tear Apart the Wedding By Spreading Rumors

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    r/AITAH 4 days ago Randomfir407 AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding after she tried to sabotage my relationship?
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    I (27F) am getting married in two months to my fiancé, Jake (29M). We've been together for five years, and I couldn't be happier. However, my relationship with my sister, Lily (25F), has been rocky for the past year.
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    Here's some background: Growing up, Lily and I were very close. She's always been the life of the party, charming, and the center of attention. I've always been more introverted and happy to let her shine. When Jake and I started dating, Lily was thrilled and we all got along great.
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    A year ago, things started to change. Jake got a promotion at work, which allowed us to buy a house. This seemed to trigger something in Lily. She started making snide comments about how I was "lucky" to have found Jake and how I wouldn't have been able to afford the house on
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    my own. I tried to brush it off, thinking she was just having a rough time.
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    Then, at a family gathering, Lily got drunk and told everyone that Jake had hit on her when we first started dating. Jake was mortified and denied it immediately. I was shocked and didn't know what to think. Later, Lily apologized, saying she was drunk and it was just a joke. Jake assured me it
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    just a joke. Jake assured me it never happened, and I believe him.
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    Since then, Lily has made several attempts to undermine my relationship with Jake. She would "accidentally" send me texts meant for her friends, saying things like, "Jake isn't even that great" and "She doesn't deserve him." It became clear she was trying to sabotage us.
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    When I announced our engagement, Lily's reaction was lukewarm at best. She didn't offer to help with wedding planning and continued to make hurtful comments. The final straw came last month when I found out she told our mutual friends that Jake was only marrying me for my
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    money (which is laughable because Jake makes more than I do).
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    I decided enough was enough and told Lily she was no longer invited to the wedding. She burst into tears, saying I was overreacting and that she was just trying to protect me. My parents are now involved, saying I should forgive her because "family is everything." They want
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    me to reinvite her and keep the peace, but I feel like I need to stand my ground. AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding after she tried to sabotage my relationship?
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    Fire_or_water_kai • 4d ago NTA Tell your parents that the whole "family is everything" goes both ways, and they're essentially cosigning her and acting like she's their only daughter. Ask
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    them if that's how they really feel. If anyone needs to learn to keep the peace, it's your sister.
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    hid... 4d ago • Edited 4d ago "Yes. Family is everything. So I will prioritize the family I I am starting with Jake. If you want to be a part* of it, then. drop it." Edit-spelling
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    OrganizationShar... 4d ago NTA. She will come and likely try to do something to sabotage it or make a scene. Better to cut it off before that happens.
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    Anonymous65432... 4d ago NTA, if she's been this persistent in trying to break you guys up, she will probably cause a scene at your wedding. It's your day, enjoy it.
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    Strain_Pure 4d ago NTA God only knows what sort of scene she'd create at your wedding if you re-invited her.
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    You need to tell your parents that if "family is everything" then she wouldn't be acting the way she is, and it's her own fault she's not invited.
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    ululating-unicorn • 4d ago NTA. If family is everything, why is it ok for her to treat you so horribly?
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    tiredblonde ⚫4d ago NTA. If "family is everything " then turn it back on your parents and ask them why they haven't said that to your sister. Every time they give you one of those lines, ask them to ask that if your sister.
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    Personally, not only would I not invite your sister, I'd warn your parents if they keep it up, they don't have to be invited as well
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    Either way, I would get security for the wedding and reception so they your sister it up doesn't

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